how priorities change, and baby innocence becomes an uncomfortable awareness, and childish pursuits so quickly become sophisticated! what i have learned at this mid-point of parenting J1 and J2 are:
1. that God has been pleased to bring them up in spite of us. thank God that he has made whole what i would otherwise have destroyed. thank God that he has been pleased to grow them in faith and maturity and grace, over the insecurity and fears and anxieties of their mother!
2. that the most important thing i can do is pray for them. which is what every older pastor tells parents like me, and my sophisticated mind goes, really? but really, i think, because God hears my prayers, and he grants what i pray for that is aligned to his will, and what is more aligned than that my children should walk faithfully with their Lord?
3. that i need to let them go, the world is their destiny. the greatest gift i received from my parents, i think, is that they dared to let me leave home, make my way, suffer my mistakes, and not intrude upon the life i was struggling to shape.
4. that above all i must love their father as my best friend, my lover, my partner - because in order to successfully let them go i must have something beautiful left behind, which is my realtionship with their other parent.
- God is bigger than your mistakes
- pray for your children to be faithful
- be brave and let them go
- build your marriage before your family
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